Time for another update on our little boy!
It's been really exciting to process knowing his gender and talking about names for him. My mom is in the middle of making him a quilt and we've been getting a lot more serious about research and shopping for what we'll need. It's all coming together!
We feel pretty lucky to have so many friends going through similar situations right now. Two of Greg's best friends welcomed the first babies this past month and it's been so fun to visit them see their little bundles. A good friend of mine from high school had a baby in September and I got to visit her and hear how everything went. My best friend gave birth to her second baby this weekend. My co-worker gives birth in a few weeks. It's been really nice to learn from everyone and compare plans, strategies, and resources.
ClassesWe planned out our schedule so that we could have our classes completed by the holidays so we could focus on fun things like shopping and hot chocolate instead of viewing the scary tools they might need to use to get our son here safely. We went to our first baby preparation class this Saturday. We were worried about getting through all of it because it was scheduled from 9 am to 5:30 pm and we had to drive about 40 minutes to the class. There were more available near us but this date worked for us. It ended up being so worth it! We learned so many new things that I had never heard about and our teacher was just awesome. She made the whole class super engaging and we learned a lot. As we were driving away, I said, "We're lucky there wasn't some person in the class that tried to compete with the teacher, because that would have made the whole day really long." Then I realized, I was probably that person. I think I asked her a question every 10 minutes of the day. They were all related to the topic but just random questions I had in my head. Hopefully the class doesn't mind that I was the one who slowed us down, but hey, I felt so much more ready for delivery when we left. So I guess that's the point of taking the class.
We also did our hospital tour a few weeks ago. I wanted to do that before the delivery class so I could visualize what sort of space we would be in and what our situation would look like. I'm pumped that the hospital has jacuzzis in each delivery room and that they have flavored ice chips!
We have another class this week about breast feeding, and then one more called "What to Expect as a New Parent" which goes over diapers, CPR, bathing, sleeping, calming the baby down, etc. I know a lot of people aren't into the classes but we feel like they've already been a great source of anxiety relief for us to have a better understanding of how we can prepare physically and emotionally. And I think it's nice to do the classes together and be able to get the same information at the same time.
Diet & ExerciseEating is still tricky for me. There are a lot of things I'm trying to avoid in the "not recommended during pregnancy" category. But then there's also just a lot of things that don't sound good to me. I've consistently enjoyed my bran cereals in the morning, apple sauce and cottage cheese for snacks, and then usually vegetarian meals for lunch and dinner– especially things that involve bread, cheese, tomatoes of some sort. I think I've been doing better with vegetables this trimester. I haven't been as picky and I've been making a lot of vegetables pureed soups so I can try to get more veggies in my diet. I try to order a salad anytime I go out to eat because usually a salad at a restaurant is pretty tasty with lots of ingredients and good dressings. I'm learning why the recommendation is to not eat large meals when pregnant. I saw a diagram of the intestines of a pregnant woman this weekend. It's pretty much just smushed and the space is taken over by the baby. I experience heartburn for the first time a few weeks ago after a big meal, and I kept trying to figure out what it was because it was so weird! After a few big meals, I've learned my lesson and I'm trying to not overdo it, even when the meal is really good!
I've been pretty proud of myself on the exercise front. I typically have a hard time getting out of bed and making exercise a priority, but having this little guy kicking and motivating me has really helped. He makes me want to be in good shape to take care of him. I should clarify when I say exercise- I don't go a real intense cycle, but I try to do something a little active everyday. Some mornings I take a walk around our neighborhood for about 25 minutes. Other mornings I do a prenatal yoga video for 10 minutes (found a cute gal on YouTube from the UK who leads 10 min segments and I really like her) and then I'll do some of my own stretching afterwards. And some mornings, Greg leads me in a few repetitions of squats. I try to do them on my own but I always do them wrong because they're pretty easy. But when he guides me and shows me how to do them properly, they are always much harder!
Energy & Sleep
The best part of the second trimester has been all the extra energy and feeling like myself again. It's been really nice to cook and get some other fun projects done. As we get closer to the third trimester though, I'm starting to lose some of that energy which is sad. I've been falling asleep earlier and earlier at night. Usually I'll fall asleep on the couch and then sweet Greg gets the bed turned down and turns on the heater in our room and then walks me to bed because I'm so drowsy. Daylights savings has been a REAL BUMMER. I always struggle with it, but these past few days have been pretty rough. I've been falling asleep at 8 pm and then trying to wake up or stay awake a little longer.
Game changer for my sleep has been a pregnancy pillow. Greg's co-worker gave it to us and it's really helped me sleep at night. It's a horseshoe sized body pillow and takes up more than my fair share of our bed. But it's really been nice to have the bump supported and have things be a little more comfortable for side sleeping.
My rhinitis has pretty much gone away, which I'm very grateful about. My mood swings are all over the place, but in general, I think I've been pretty emotional and sad more often than I'm in a great mood. The mood swings are really wearing me down and Greg too. Yesterday as I was going to bed, I said, "Wow! I don't think I cried today! Wohoo!"
Bending down is also getting more difficult. I find myself less willing to turn on the heater under my desk at work and just suffer through the cold so I don't have to bend down. Although, it's not so much the bending down that is so bad. It's the getting up that is difficult! I've started embracing the slip-on shoes!
The bump is growing and it makes my maternity clothes easier to wear. I'm really grateful for all the clothes from my sister. We didn't realize that she's a bit taller than me, so I've been altering the clothes to be a better fit for me and it's really helped with my moods in the mornings to have something fitted for me.
On PerfectionI'm not sure if it's motherhood or my personality or what, but I've been feeling a little frantic about making sure I do everything right: no processed meats, no unpasteurized cheeses, planning to go organic with everything, not having too much sugar, cloth diapering, Montessori toys, lots of baby books, analyzing delivery options, avoiding medicine, etc. There's a lot to be careful of during pregnancy.
I'm glad that I've learned so much. But as I learned in art school, it's important to learn the fundamentals and the building blocks. But it's just as important to know when and how to break them. I've started reading some baby books and the overwhelming message that's repeated over and over is how important it to trust your instinct. I'm trying to focus on that and allow myself some space that I'll learn what I need to learn and then pick and choose the best thing for our baby when the time is right. But I don't think it's helping to obsess over the details when I know I can trust Greg and myself to be good parents.